The Forever Debatable Questions

'The Forever Debatable Questions' are:

1.Can you keep in touch with your ex'es?
2.Can you be 'just good friends' with the opposite sex?

And my answers are:


I was tempted to leave this blank! Lol.

But from my perspective the answer to both questions is a definitive 'YES'.

With one notable exception every split from my ex'es has been amicable.
I no longer keep in touch with them all, but should our path's ever cross, then I like to think that there'd be no problem between us.
There are a couple of ex'es who I still keep in touch with, and I am extremely pleased that they have found happiness in their lives...funnily enough, this both involves having their lives enriched by having a lovely baby, which in itself puts a different perspective on their lives.
In my heart of hearts part of me probably wishes that I was still with them, but I am genuinely happy for them, and I will always wish them well.

As for being just good friends with the opposite sex... I believe this is possible providing you have complete trust with each other.
Also it is essential that their 'other halves' have complete trust in them too, if they are in a relationship.
I have quite a few female friends who are just that ~ friends.
But their friendship is priceless to me, and I count myself very fortunate to have them in my life.
Those that have boyfriends or husbands know that they I am respectful of their relationship, and those that are single but not wanting to get involved in anything heavier with me, all know that I would never cross that line, as their friendship is far too valuable to me to ruin by overstepping the mark.
I'll admit to some cases of a bit of harmless flirting or a few inuendo's being shared, but that's just my cheeky-chappyiness coming out! Lol.

There was one occassion that I did overstep the mark in the past, and I deeply regret it to this day.
Although in time this female friend forgave me, I know the friendship was forever tarnished due to my stupidity. This lady now lives in Australia and I'm not sure if she reads my blog, although she does have access to it...but if you're reading this then please accept my humble apology once again.
And might I add, that I'm so pleased that your life has taken off so successfully in Oz, and I really wish you all the happiness in the world.

As recently as yesterday, I spent the day in the company of two wonderful lady friends ~ firstly a lovely pub lunch with my married & pregnant friend Elona in Theale, and then a beer in the sun in Winchester with my gorgeous single friend Jo...which just goes to prove that you can be just friends with the opposite sex.

So I think that justifies my positive answers to the two forever debatable questions, and I hope that all the female friends remain in my life as I LOVE YOU ALL ♥♥♥

Solo Steve